Ok, so I happen to be more attracted to dark haired, dark skinned people than other types. I have a weak spot in my heart for light brown skin and black hair and almond eyes. Some would think it's an asian fetish, as if it were something dirty or perverse. But physical attractions vary alot between people. The next best example is blonde with blue eyes. Some people are especially attracted to that. It's a physical trait, just like any other. What is wrong with being attracted to a certain physical trait? In the end, personality is what makes the deciding factor for keeping a relationship. Otherwise, he/she "is hot" is a reason for a shallow and generally short relationship. Either way, why is there a bad connotation for white people being attracted to asians? Is it just me or is there sometimes something seen as perverted or sick about that? On the flipside is there something bad about asians being attracted to white people or blonde hair, etc? why one and not the other? Why any of them if physical traits are acceptable as a reason for attraction?
Same goes for cultural traits. If you have experienced any cultures outside of your own local 20 to 2000 mile radius, you've probably realized that there are many different sets of values and traditions for various groups of people. Of course there are good and bad traits to any culture. I won't go too much into this except regarding traditional asian culture, which much stems from confucianism, respect, family and education tends to be regarded very high. In regards to the common connotation that women respect their men, subservient, etc goes, I don't care for it except for the respect part. I am a quiet respectful type of guy and I like a mutual want to please in my relationships. I am very turned off by competitive natures except to one's self.
I could fall in love with a girl from anywhere in the world if she had the qualities I look for mentally. My attractions, culturally, just happen to fall with something that is in line with certain asian cultures, and my particular physical attraction goes for physical traits which generally belong to asians (could also go for native american, eskimo, etc which all originate from one fork of homosapiens). So is something wrong with that? I don't think so. And if anyone does and is attracted to anything of any sort, then they are hypocrites.
Friday, November 18, 2005
Tuesday, October 04, 2005
personality type.
I am an INTP, more introverted than extroverted, and bordering (changing) from perceptory to judging, meaning I am becoming more organized...
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Tuesday, May 24, 2005
self evaluation
Due to a conversation from 'Anostica', I thought I would give self evaluation of my mental comparison to the general species of humans. I hope I don't sound biased in any way. I will try to say it as logically and unbiased as I can...
i would say i'm a fairly smart guy. MENSA (a group for geniuses) defines a genius as someone with an IQ above 140. In reality, genius is a subjective term because there are many different kinds of geniuses. Some people can remember better than others can. Some people are better auditory learners than others. I maintain mathematical and abstract spacial reasoning as a personal strength. I also maintain a logical (boolean) reasoning skill more than average. That skill could commonly be seen in people specializing in law. My auditory calculations (hearing things in my head or breaking down languages) are average. My social skills are less than average, or at least not as practiced due to the reason that social connections are created through common interests, of which i have uncommon. I am introverted and keep a small group of friends. I would say that I'm pretty selective with who I like to hang out with. Aside from my social acting, due to my empathetic skills, I am able to play therapist and personal councelor to my friends that's partly do to my logical side and my ability to put myself in others' shoes, which i also attribute to abstract spacial reasoning.
Life isn't that simple that one can put a simple linear measurement to intelligence. There are many specialized brains in this world. There are also many specialized interests. Everyone has many interests. For example, I like language, cooking, science, philosophy, science fiction, computer technology, business, nature and other things in certain unique ways like everyone has their own interests in their own unique ways.
i would say i'm a fairly smart guy. MENSA (a group for geniuses) defines a genius as someone with an IQ above 140. In reality, genius is a subjective term because there are many different kinds of geniuses. Some people can remember better than others can. Some people are better auditory learners than others. I maintain mathematical and abstract spacial reasoning as a personal strength. I also maintain a logical (boolean) reasoning skill more than average. That skill could commonly be seen in people specializing in law. My auditory calculations (hearing things in my head or breaking down languages) are average. My social skills are less than average, or at least not as practiced due to the reason that social connections are created through common interests, of which i have uncommon. I am introverted and keep a small group of friends. I would say that I'm pretty selective with who I like to hang out with. Aside from my social acting, due to my empathetic skills, I am able to play therapist and personal councelor to my friends that's partly do to my logical side and my ability to put myself in others' shoes, which i also attribute to abstract spacial reasoning.
Life isn't that simple that one can put a simple linear measurement to intelligence. There are many specialized brains in this world. There are also many specialized interests. Everyone has many interests. For example, I like language, cooking, science, philosophy, science fiction, computer technology, business, nature and other things in certain unique ways like everyone has their own interests in their own unique ways.
Wednesday, April 06, 2005
Pockies
I am a green tea pocky. what kind are you? :)
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Monday, February 28, 2005
sexes and ladders
There is this ladder theory about guys and girls. I heard it first from a friend and then heard of a website from someone else. www.intellectualwhores.com
The theory says this: Guys have one ladder where they place women, like a scale system of who they would like to be with. And girls who are their friends are just too low or up on the scale where he was rejected or is in a waiting state and couldn't be with her. A girl meanwhile has two ladders. An attraction ladder and a friend ladder. Guys can start out on their attraction ladder, but can easily be moved from the attraction ladder to the friend ladder. But cannot be easily moved back. Now, that's logical if there's a reason someone decided they wouldn't be good together as a couple. But I see it differently. A guy does have 2 ladders just like the girl. I'm thinking a guy has a friend ladder. like someone he's not going to try for and he's just chill with having them as friends, he might even see them as someone he wouldn't want to get into a relationship for personality reasons or otherwise. the whole question of if they would still have sex with them is more of a seperate issue. The simple fact that in general, guys are physically seduced and girls are mentally seduced. And so a friend, unless they were really low on the friend ladder, who walked in their room naked, would probably have their way with the guy.
And I think there is a variety of ladders for both sexes really though more commonly found in guys. and that's a sex ladder or f*ck ladder. They know they're not interested in them as a relationship and might even have something they dislike about the other person's personality etc. But they are in it for hte game to have sex. and they just want to have sex. it's their main goal. So in short, they all have 3 ladders. friend ladders, relationship ladders and sex ladders. But because of how attraction works in males and females, sometimes a guy will hold a girl in his relationship ladder while she holds him in her friend ladder. That's because he's attracted to her in some way, possibly even just because he's horny. She might even be on his sex ladder if only for that case. there are varying degrees of coldness in hte sex to f*ck ladder. A girl is usually more concentrated on the relationship ladder which isn't as centered on physical attraction and for some reason or another, usually alpha male patterns which are psychological attractions. But for lack of a better interest a guy might hold on hope. Anyway I think there are enough females with sex ladders and enough guys with friends ladders to warrant the inclusion of those ladders for each sex into the theory.
The theory says this: Guys have one ladder where they place women, like a scale system of who they would like to be with. And girls who are their friends are just too low or up on the scale where he was rejected or is in a waiting state and couldn't be with her. A girl meanwhile has two ladders. An attraction ladder and a friend ladder. Guys can start out on their attraction ladder, but can easily be moved from the attraction ladder to the friend ladder. But cannot be easily moved back. Now, that's logical if there's a reason someone decided they wouldn't be good together as a couple. But I see it differently. A guy does have 2 ladders just like the girl. I'm thinking a guy has a friend ladder. like someone he's not going to try for and he's just chill with having them as friends, he might even see them as someone he wouldn't want to get into a relationship for personality reasons or otherwise. the whole question of if they would still have sex with them is more of a seperate issue. The simple fact that in general, guys are physically seduced and girls are mentally seduced. And so a friend, unless they were really low on the friend ladder, who walked in their room naked, would probably have their way with the guy.
And I think there is a variety of ladders for both sexes really though more commonly found in guys. and that's a sex ladder or f*ck ladder. They know they're not interested in them as a relationship and might even have something they dislike about the other person's personality etc. But they are in it for hte game to have sex. and they just want to have sex. it's their main goal. So in short, they all have 3 ladders. friend ladders, relationship ladders and sex ladders. But because of how attraction works in males and females, sometimes a guy will hold a girl in his relationship ladder while she holds him in her friend ladder. That's because he's attracted to her in some way, possibly even just because he's horny. She might even be on his sex ladder if only for that case. there are varying degrees of coldness in hte sex to f*ck ladder. A girl is usually more concentrated on the relationship ladder which isn't as centered on physical attraction and for some reason or another, usually alpha male patterns which are psychological attractions. But for lack of a better interest a guy might hold on hope. Anyway I think there are enough females with sex ladders and enough guys with friends ladders to warrant the inclusion of those ladders for each sex into the theory.
Thursday, February 03, 2005
webcam
Well I got a webcam today, which I've been wanting for some time, but now I dont really have anything to do with it. hooray for empty consumerism.
Tuesday, January 25, 2005
conditioning
I was thinking the other day how it's funny that human psychology is similar in many ways to other species of animals on this planet. And most of all,as most animals are, they are formed by being conditioned.
If you have a feeling of being grossed out by anything, it is most likely conditioning. If you don't like something and you know anyone else that might like it, you know it is your tastes which is your psychological affect of a certain taste and how you interpret the taste to be. People have had their tastes changed through other conditionings as well. The point is that tastes are usually limited by our own psychological barriers.
Foods usually come with association. People like things that give them good association and makes them feel happy or comfortable. Even subconciously, the like of a flavor can be linked probably to some association.
Of course, this is nothing new. So I'm just rambling.
If you have a feeling of being grossed out by anything, it is most likely conditioning. If you don't like something and you know anyone else that might like it, you know it is your tastes which is your psychological affect of a certain taste and how you interpret the taste to be. People have had their tastes changed through other conditionings as well. The point is that tastes are usually limited by our own psychological barriers.
Foods usually come with association. People like things that give them good association and makes them feel happy or comfortable. Even subconciously, the like of a flavor can be linked probably to some association.
Of course, this is nothing new. So I'm just rambling.
Monday, January 17, 2005
dreams and bed
Does anyone else ever have a vivid or emotionally strong dream and wake up with a strong impression or feeling, and then forget about it and go through their day and forget about it, but then when they lay down in bed in the spot in the bed where they were dreaming, that dream comes back to them like a fresh memory? That happens to me sometime. Just wondering. :)
Sunday, January 16, 2005
Ducks and Octopi
I love octopus. I love the taste of fresh raw octopus. I even had octopus live once. I loved it. Tastes sooo delicious. And I dont think there's anything gross or bad about it. Eating animals is part of nature's intentions. All animals eat, and carnivores and omnivores eat other animals. We are omnivores. All part of the universe's grand intentions. The reason I talk about this is because the conversation came up between anostica and I. She doesn't share the same affinity with the natural laws of the universe that I do. :)
I want to experience everything I can and experience them with an open mind. I might like some things that wouldn't seem obvious as enjoyable things. Many taboos in cultures are common practices in other cultures. Having an open mind allows me to see that one taboo isn't necessarily right over the views of another culture. There are a few examples, I have. One would piss many people off and is a common taboo among many cultures. That taboo is incest. Being objective, I see the logic of not wanting incest to be practiced. It has been shown that breeding within a family can cause genetic defects. That's interesting really, and I dont understand how that happens exactly. But the point is, I don't feel any subjective feelings over the matter. Of course if I saw a brother/sister sexual relationship, I would think it was abnormal, which it usually is, but I don't have a judgemental feeling about it. I don't really care. Just like I dont care if people are gay. Some people have judgemental feelings about that too. Anything that people think is wrong that doesn't harm people is usually cultural and often illogical. Nature is chaos. Gay people are attracted to people of the same sex. They just are. That's how the brains are wired. If they're happy, good for them. Ok, I'm going off on a tangent. I was talking about foods. When I went to Korea, I had dog meat at a restaurant. To be honest, it was just ok. A bit too stringy for my tastes. But my point is that it's a taboo in this culture and some others. But to think so judgementally on it is being closed minded and simple. Cows are holy creatures by some, and we eat them like there's no tomorrow. So if we expect to damn people who eat dogs, then we should expect to be damned by eating cows.
Ducks came up in our conversation because she got sick after eating ducks. She thinks she could eat chickens but doesn't have the enzymes to break down duck meat. But I think they have similar enough bodies that the enzymes are so different. I think she just got food poisoning.
Oh well. Enjoy life. Make every day count.
Saturday, January 15, 2005
life and goals
Living in san diego is quite a change from minnesota. in minnesota, life is dull, but satisfying. It's not intimidating, but it's not exciting either. It's mild, and fresh in the summer and cold and fresh in the winter. It's really awesome to live in (especially northern minnesota). The only drawback is the lengthy darkness. I got so frustrated during college because I was depressed and could barely keep studying since I had no motivation to try. I enjoyed partying and being with my friends, but I put off my work because I had no drive. I only graduated by luck of my natural talent and intelligence. I would have been among the 60 percent of college dropouts otherwise.
I almost moved to California before I graduated but my grades werent high enough to be accepted into any decent school (namely UCI (university of california, Irvine)). And in the end, I wanted to finish school instead of going another year just so I could transfer half a year early to sunny california.
Long story short, I moved to California, felt better emotionally but didn't get the security of a job. Weird though. I planned on moving to california since high school, and my parents happend to move to california before i graduated college which gave me a perfect platform to move to california without the guarantee of a job. It made it alot easier for me to live here without the intese pressure of having a job. I sometimes wonder how I could have lived her without their support.
But now i have a job. I lost a love which I didn't have before I got out of here and in the grand scheme of things, I'm on a positive level. I feel negative in some ways because I want something that I dont have, but I guess that's how life will always be. Sometimes there are things you want but don't have, and sometimes there are things that you can't believe you don't have and feel like you have to have. in my case it was the second thing. But it will come again. But at least I'm on the platform for the next jump.
This time I talked about abstract life problems which we all may have, but next time, maybe I'll talk about more general philosophical ideas, which seem to be getting closer and closer to political ideals in the 2000+ (AD) years of the world. I think there is sometihng happening that is worth noting on the formation of politics in the world and ideals of human beings. But perhaps I will talk about that another time.
Take care...
I almost moved to California before I graduated but my grades werent high enough to be accepted into any decent school (namely UCI (university of california, Irvine)). And in the end, I wanted to finish school instead of going another year just so I could transfer half a year early to sunny california.
Long story short, I moved to California, felt better emotionally but didn't get the security of a job. Weird though. I planned on moving to california since high school, and my parents happend to move to california before i graduated college which gave me a perfect platform to move to california without the guarantee of a job. It made it alot easier for me to live here without the intese pressure of having a job. I sometimes wonder how I could have lived her without their support.
But now i have a job. I lost a love which I didn't have before I got out of here and in the grand scheme of things, I'm on a positive level. I feel negative in some ways because I want something that I dont have, but I guess that's how life will always be. Sometimes there are things you want but don't have, and sometimes there are things that you can't believe you don't have and feel like you have to have. in my case it was the second thing. But it will come again. But at least I'm on the platform for the next jump.
This time I talked about abstract life problems which we all may have, but next time, maybe I'll talk about more general philosophical ideas, which seem to be getting closer and closer to political ideals in the 2000+ (AD) years of the world. I think there is sometihng happening that is worth noting on the formation of politics in the world and ideals of human beings. But perhaps I will talk about that another time.
Take care...
Friday, January 14, 2005
new blog
So I just got this blog and the idea from my friend anostica. So this one is a tribute to her. Go anostica! So I live here in San Diego. Plenty of do, plenty to see and nice weather. But it takes 2 to tango. I need another to tango. Oh well. Same old story. Too much to do, and my priorities might be mixed up. It's like that movie family man but not as exciting cuz you can't fast forward 10 years within 2 hours like movies. So I'm living it.
Not much to say, but at least my blog is started. Go team!
Not much to say, but at least my blog is started. Go team!
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