self image related to empathy

The nurturing (caring) function of the brain is related to caring for oneself and others. Like the language (communication) part of the brain, the natural ability of its use is determined by the actual practice in its use. The same things applies to the nurturing function of the brain. So if you feel inadequate or low in self opinion then the caring part of your brain isn't used for yourself, so it's not in use for others. 'Empathy' appears to be lacking. But when you're completely comfortable and happy with yourself, and you love yourself, then the caring part of the brain is in use and naturally wants to apply its function to others around you. Hence a self fulfilled person (self loving) is naturally empathetic.

perfection of the universe

As the human race, we are always looking for perfection and become unhappy when things go against our expectations or hopes about our world around us. For those of us who want to grow beyond those turbulent emotions, we must realize that in order to move beyond the 'garbage' of life, we must learn to love the 'garbage' of life. Perfection comes from embracing all things. While it is easy and natural to fight against our realities and what fate has given us, it is difficult to love them. The world can be beautiful when you know how to love it. The universe is not imperfect. Imperfection is a concept of our own thoughts and consciousness.
I thought that enlightenment would involve forsaking all things, good and bad, and becoming detached from all things in the world. But things are as they are. To truly know enlightenment, isn't it to realize the nature of the world and love it?... To be one with it?
So for example, person is in relationship with another person. arbitrarily i'll use father and child. Father is inexperienced in the way that would optimally nurture the child. So father says you are doing it wrong. you do it wrong. child interprets it as 'you are bad. you are not satisfactory.' This creates a negative self image in the child. This is human nature.
But when a mind truly realizes that the universe is as it is and is perfect as it is, then instead of being disappointed at the lack of experience of the father or choices of the father, the child can be at peace that the father is as he is, which is nature. All things are perfect, because perfect doesn't fit a definition. It just exists. to realize that is to be enlightened.